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This week: A bride is upset that her cousin announced her pregnancy at her wedding last week.
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DEAR 1-800-BRIDESMAID,
I'm writing to you with a heavy heart and a mix of emotions I can't seem to shake. Last week was supposed to be the happiest day of my life – my wedding day. But now, I can't think about it without feeling a surge of anger and disappointment.
Here's what happened: My cousin, who I've always had a competitive relationship with, chose my wedding as the perfect moment to announce her pregnancy. She's only 10 weeks along, so it's not like she couldn't have waited. But no, she used my special day to tell everyone and make it all about her.
The worst part? It worked. People were so focused on her "news" that nobody even watched our first dance. My husband and I had been practicing for weeks, but it felt like we were invisible on our own wedding day.
I'm furious. This was supposed to be our moment, a celebration of our love and commitment. Instead, it turned into my cousin's impromptu baby shower. I feel like she stole something from us that we can never get back.
Part of me wants to confront her, to tell her how selfish and inconsiderate she was. But another part wonders if it's even worth it. Will it change anything? Will she even care how much she hurt us?
I don't know how to move forward. Every time I think about my wedding, all I can remember is the feeling of being upstaged and overlooked. How do I deal with this anger? Should I say something to my cousin, or just try to let it go?
Please help me figure out what to do.
-Marissa
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She won't change, don't put any effort into that relationship. Don't go to the baby shower - unless you have big news to announce and overshadow her.
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