One of my bridesmaids approached me regarding gifts because she wasn't sure how it worked and in the end she bought me a really sweet gift that was in her budget. which I appreciated a lot. I never want anyone to do anything outside of their budget for me. I think maybe ask the bride, say hey, I am wondering what the etiquette you expect from bridesmaids for your wedding? Do you expect monetary gifts, us to buy something from the registry, etc? I think that might help. In the end, if she gets mad at you for getting her a small gift or not getting her a gift, you might want to rethink the friendship. All of the things you already did are extremely kind and generous and I personally believe that that in itself is an amazing gift. <3
Your gift is your immense generosity in your time and money spent on all of the accessories of being a support to your friend.
I think it would be incredibly ill-mannered for her to expect you to shell out even more for ANOTHER gift on top of all that you have given already.
If you were independently wealthy and wanted to shower her further, then I would happily encourage you to do whatever makes you happy, but in this case, it is a hardship for you, so absolutely not, and if I were the bride, I would be mortified that you were even struggling with this question.
One of my bridesmaids approached me regarding gifts because she wasn't sure how it worked and in the end she bought me a really sweet gift that was in her budget. which I appreciated a lot. I never want anyone to do anything outside of their budget for me. I think maybe ask the bride, say hey, I am wondering what the etiquette you expect from bridesmaids for your wedding? Do you expect monetary gifts, us to buy something from the registry, etc? I think that might help. In the end, if she gets mad at you for getting her a small gift or not getting her a gift, you might want to rethink the friendship. All of the things you already did are extremely kind and generous and I personally believe that that in itself is an amazing gift. <3
Your gift is your immense generosity in your time and money spent on all of the accessories of being a support to your friend.
I think it would be incredibly ill-mannered for her to expect you to shell out even more for ANOTHER gift on top of all that you have given already.
If you were independently wealthy and wanted to shower her further, then I would happily encourage you to do whatever makes you happy, but in this case, it is a hardship for you, so absolutely not, and if I were the bride, I would be mortified that you were even struggling with this question.