Why am I now just seeing this golden nugget part 2? :D
#1. I went to an eye doctor recently. I'm getting my eyes checked because I don't know what I saw in them.
#2. All jokes aside, I think the biggest mistakes I made in my earlier 20's is not letting more boats sink sooner. The signs were there, but some of the people I come across didn't want to be friends with me like I wanted to be friends with them. There were quite a few lovely girls that I hit it off with amazing friendships. But others were one sided. Female friendships sometimes can be a difficult terrain to figure out, especially when you are trying to be kind and you don't get the same kindness in return. I'm a giver and poured into too many cups. I had genuine intentions and wanted to learn how to trust. I simply got tired of doing all the reaching out, texting for birthdays, snapchatting for Merry Christmases and more. One day I stopped reaching out. I woke up and smelled the coffee and realized they didn't care, so why should I? I was low key wondering this: instead of saying they were too busy, why don't they say I'm not priority? I may not been someone they wanted to be friends with, and that's ok. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I rather be someone's shot of tequila anyways.
Nowadays, my absence is apparently felt. I've pulled back and became less available. As a giver, I had to learn to set limits because the takers rarely do. I changed my boundaries. I even stopped posting on my social media as much. And I'm focused on me, my happiness, my self care and my purposes. And all of sudden after keeping my distance from people from my past? Some people from my past all of sudden are interested in reconnecting which I find to be odd. I've been getting out of the blue phone calls which is very strange to me, why haven't they blocked me or deleted my number lol? These people wasn't interested in working on a friendship while I was in their lives. Now that we are not friends anymore, they are looking on my socials, asking mutual acquaintances what I'm up to, and seeking me out. My chapter in their book is closed. I hope they move on from me like I did them, and this includes not looking on someone's socials, especially when you don't like them!
Lesson here.
Walk away from your past. Don't bring back people from your past who hurt you. No matter if it's mentally, emotionally, financially or physically. Walk away from those who stabbed you in the back and caused you distress. If someone did something really awful to hurt you. And they didn't care about you or about your feelings? Don't let them back in your life because they will never respect you. The longer you keep holding on to people that's not meant for you, the longer you postpone the people that's meant for you. At the end of the day we got to stop allowing a lot of stuff and we teach people how to treat us. If you don't set boundaries you'll keep attracting people who are toxic.
Keisha great response. Still so sad
Why am I now just seeing this golden nugget part 2? :D
#1. I went to an eye doctor recently. I'm getting my eyes checked because I don't know what I saw in them.
#2. All jokes aside, I think the biggest mistakes I made in my earlier 20's is not letting more boats sink sooner. The signs were there, but some of the people I come across didn't want to be friends with me like I wanted to be friends with them. There were quite a few lovely girls that I hit it off with amazing friendships. But others were one sided. Female friendships sometimes can be a difficult terrain to figure out, especially when you are trying to be kind and you don't get the same kindness in return. I'm a giver and poured into too many cups. I had genuine intentions and wanted to learn how to trust. I simply got tired of doing all the reaching out, texting for birthdays, snapchatting for Merry Christmases and more. One day I stopped reaching out. I woke up and smelled the coffee and realized they didn't care, so why should I? I was low key wondering this: instead of saying they were too busy, why don't they say I'm not priority? I may not been someone they wanted to be friends with, and that's ok. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I rather be someone's shot of tequila anyways.
Nowadays, my absence is apparently felt. I've pulled back and became less available. As a giver, I had to learn to set limits because the takers rarely do. I changed my boundaries. I even stopped posting on my social media as much. And I'm focused on me, my happiness, my self care and my purposes. And all of sudden after keeping my distance from people from my past? Some people from my past all of sudden are interested in reconnecting which I find to be odd. I've been getting out of the blue phone calls which is very strange to me, why haven't they blocked me or deleted my number lol? These people wasn't interested in working on a friendship while I was in their lives. Now that we are not friends anymore, they are looking on my socials, asking mutual acquaintances what I'm up to, and seeking me out. My chapter in their book is closed. I hope they move on from me like I did them, and this includes not looking on someone's socials, especially when you don't like them!
Lesson here.
Walk away from your past. Don't bring back people from your past who hurt you. No matter if it's mentally, emotionally, financially or physically. Walk away from those who stabbed you in the back and caused you distress. If someone did something really awful to hurt you. And they didn't care about you or about your feelings? Don't let them back in your life because they will never respect you. The longer you keep holding on to people that's not meant for you, the longer you postpone the people that's meant for you. At the end of the day we got to stop allowing a lot of stuff and we teach people how to treat us. If you don't set boundaries you'll keep attracting people who are toxic.