I Need You to Fire My Maid of Honor
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🔥I Need You to Fire My Maid of Honor
Let's talk for real, for real.
I once had to fire someone's maid of honor for them. A bride called me a month before her wedding and said:
“I want to hire you to be my maid of honor. But I also want to hire you to fire my maid of honor for me.”
I never started Bridesmaid for Hire because I wanted to work as HR for someone else's bridal party, but that type of request does float into my life quite often.
You might wonder how a person gets to the point of wanting to fire their maid of honor, another person who for years was their best friend, and I can tell you this:
Friendship is a lot like an elastic hair band.
It holds two people close together but distance, drama, resentment, years of built-up frustration, jealousy, stress, opinions, and so much more can make that band stretch to the point where it just…POPS!
Weddings can do that to a friendship.
This bride wanted to fire her maid of honor because she overheard her telling another bridesmaid that once the wedding was over, she planned to never speak to the bride ever again.
It turns out their friendship had been on the rocks for years but the bride hoped that if she took on the maid of honor role it would bring them closer together.
That plan failed.
Not only did the role drive them further apart but the maid of honor was hardly doing anything to support the bride.
It was like she wanted to be fired because she didn't have the courage to quit.
Weddings influence the state of a friendship but weddings aren't the time to heal a friendship that's extremely broken. It's a time to keep people close to you who can support you, not who you hope can support you.
So while I didn't pick up the phone and tell Jackie, the original maid of honor, she was fired, I did help the bride come up with an exact script to use to tell her that this just wasn't working out.
She sent it to Jackie and Jackie apologized for saying what she said. They both realized that the friendship needed attention and decided that conversations around that could happen after the wedding ended.
Jackie did attend the wedding as a guest.
I did attend the wedding as the bride's last-minute maid of honor - I even gave a maid of honor speech and used this to write it fast.
I'm sharing this with you because the bride reached out to me this week to update me on her friendship with Jackie.
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