👰🏻The Bride Wore White. But so Did I.
1-800-Bridesmaid
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This week: Veronica wore white to her friend’s wedding and was asked to leave. Is she wrong for that?
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Dear 1-800-Bridesmaid,
I'm writing to you because I'm in a really uncomfortable situation with one of my friends, and I'm not sure how to handle it.
Here's what happened: I wore a dress to the wedding that I thought was appropriate. It was a cream dress - not pure white, but I guess you could call it whitish. I honestly didn't think it would be an issue. However, when I arrived at the wedding, the bride approached me and said I had to leave and change my dress. She told me I wasn't allowed to stay at the wedding wearing that dress.
I was shocked and embarrassed. I felt like all eyes were on me as I left the venue. I didn't have another dress with me, and the wedding location was far from my home. Feeling hurt and humiliated, I decided not to return to the wedding at all.
It's been a week since this happened, and my friend and I haven't spoken. I'm hurt by how she treated me, and I don't think I did anything wrong. I certainly didn't intend to upstage her or break any wedding etiquette rules. I feel that asking me to leave was an overreaction and unnecessarily harsh.
At the same time, I know weddings can be stressful, and brides are under a lot of pressure. I value our friendship and don't want this incident to end it. But I also feel I deserve an apology for being asked to leave.
What should I do? Should I reach out to her first? Should I wait for her to contact me? How do I express my feelings without making the situation worse?
Help!
-Veronica
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