🤔Am I Making a Mistake?
1-800-Bridesmaid
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Dear 1-800-Bridesmaid,
I'm a bridesmaid for my friend wedding, which is coming up in just a month. Last weekend, we all went out to celebrate the one-month countdown to the big day.
Her fiancé, Vince*, had quite a few drinks and ended up confiding in me. I asked if he’s excited for the wedding and he said things like:
Ahh, yeah, I don’t know. Marriage is kind of scary.
Later, he said:
I hope i’m not making a mistake or anything.
I didn’t know how to respond so I just let him talk. He didn’t open up much more than that but kept saying things like that to me during our talk.
Vince hasn't mentioned anything about this conversation since that night. I'm torn about what to do with this information.
On one hand, I feel like maybe he was drunk and just feeling normal wedding nerves. But on the other hand, I’m wondering if there’s more that he was trying to say but didn’t get the chance.
I don't want to cause unnecessary drama, especially so close to the wedding. But I also feel a responsibility to my friend. Should I talk to Vince about it? Should I tell my friend? Or should I just keep quiet and assume it was just drunk talk?
Please help! I'm losing sleep over this.
-Dani
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Hello Dani,
Wow this is indeed a toughy.
Perhaps try starting with the parameters of your relationships with both people?
How close are you to your friend / how close to her fiance?
If you are very close with your friend, (which may be why you are losing sleep over this), are you also close with her family?
Are there any siblings / other family members with whom you could speak / get some depth on the dynamics?
How long have your friend and Vince been together?
What are the emotional maturity levels of these two people? Is she more emotionally mature than he? (Often the case).
If your loyalty is very strongly with your friend, are there ways to talk with her and ask questions about their relationship without exposing your concern?
I have answered your questions with a lot of questions, I know - - I'm attempting to prompt you to think in ways that would give you clarity - in case you haven't already asked yourself these things, of course.
Please let us all know how you are proceeding with this - - your thoughts, etc.
Hopefully our conversation here will be your 'Rosetta Stone'.
- Eva
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