Perhaps try starting with the parameters of your relationships with both people?
How close are you to your friend / how close to her fiance?
If you are very close with your friend, (which may be why you are losing sleep over this), are you also close with her family?
Are there any siblings / other family members with whom you could speak / get some depth on the dynamics?
How long have your friend and Vince been together?
What are the emotional maturity levels of these two people? Is she more emotionally mature than he? (Often the case).
If your loyalty is very strongly with your friend, are there ways to talk with her and ask questions about their relationship without exposing your concern?
I have answered your questions with a lot of questions, I know - - I'm attempting to prompt you to think in ways that would give you clarity - in case you haven't already asked yourself these things, of course.
Please let us all know how you are proceeding with this - - your thoughts, etc.
Hopefully our conversation here will be your 'Rosetta Stone'.
Hello Dani,
Wow this is indeed a toughy.
Perhaps try starting with the parameters of your relationships with both people?
How close are you to your friend / how close to her fiance?
If you are very close with your friend, (which may be why you are losing sleep over this), are you also close with her family?
Are there any siblings / other family members with whom you could speak / get some depth on the dynamics?
How long have your friend and Vince been together?
What are the emotional maturity levels of these two people? Is she more emotionally mature than he? (Often the case).
If your loyalty is very strongly with your friend, are there ways to talk with her and ask questions about their relationship without exposing your concern?
I have answered your questions with a lot of questions, I know - - I'm attempting to prompt you to think in ways that would give you clarity - in case you haven't already asked yourself these things, of course.
Please let us all know how you are proceeding with this - - your thoughts, etc.
Hopefully our conversation here will be your 'Rosetta Stone'.
- Eva
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