I would quit. She's not your friend anymore. Write an email about how all this make you feel. Too bad you put yourself in debt. But this is also a valuable lesson. Stick to your boundaries. And from own experience when you lose a so called friend, there's a genuine one in your future. Take care.
“The friendship has been over for longer than I’ve admitted.” - that’s the bingo right there. She wasn’t your best friend for 15 years. Both of you have stopped being best friends for a while - the wedding prep is just the blessing to reveal the true state of things.
This is why you don’t try to patch a friendship that can’t be patched. It’s time to move on. For example, you shouldn’t have to go into debt for a friend’s or best friend’s wedding.
Now, sit down and write out what your boundaries are going forward - 3 weeks or not. What you’ll take and won’t take. If any of the boundaries are crossed, you’re out.
Either you do this now or later, be calm in the knowledge that this friendship was over a long time ago. This just made everything clearer. I’ll be happy to break off from this kind of relationship - no anxiety, no debts, no name calling - sign me up
I think you should just step up and come through for her and make it about her and tell her how much you did for her after and that is was because of your friendship because it's her moment. If you don't have the money but came up with it leave it at that and don't stress her out she's prob spending a lot more than u realize as well
I would cut off the friendship after the wedding. You're in an unfortunate situation, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this anxiety! A "friend" wouldn't treat you that way. That being said, you've also put a lot into this wedding yourself, and three weeks is a very close timeline for you both. I would attend, smile, and enjoy the good moments of the day that you've worked so hard toward.
I would quit. She's not your friend anymore. Write an email about how all this make you feel. Too bad you put yourself in debt. But this is also a valuable lesson. Stick to your boundaries. And from own experience when you lose a so called friend, there's a genuine one in your future. Take care.
“The friendship has been over for longer than I’ve admitted.” - that’s the bingo right there. She wasn’t your best friend for 15 years. Both of you have stopped being best friends for a while - the wedding prep is just the blessing to reveal the true state of things.
This is why you don’t try to patch a friendship that can’t be patched. It’s time to move on. For example, you shouldn’t have to go into debt for a friend’s or best friend’s wedding.
Now, sit down and write out what your boundaries are going forward - 3 weeks or not. What you’ll take and won’t take. If any of the boundaries are crossed, you’re out.
Either you do this now or later, be calm in the knowledge that this friendship was over a long time ago. This just made everything clearer. I’ll be happy to break off from this kind of relationship - no anxiety, no debts, no name calling - sign me up
I think you should just step up and come through for her and make it about her and tell her how much you did for her after and that is was because of your friendship because it's her moment. If you don't have the money but came up with it leave it at that and don't stress her out she's prob spending a lot more than u realize as well
I would cut off the friendship after the wedding. You're in an unfortunate situation, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this anxiety! A "friend" wouldn't treat you that way. That being said, you've also put a lot into this wedding yourself, and three weeks is a very close timeline for you both. I would attend, smile, and enjoy the good moments of the day that you've worked so hard toward.