I would create a fake profile on the dating app and see if he is on there. Join the are we dating the same guy and post his pic anonymously. Then you have your proof.
Be prepared for her to still marry him. If he’s a good manipulator he can explain it away. Him and her work it out.
My bf and I are currently working it out.
My bf was on dating apps. The only reason he got caught was a girl posted him in the group Are We Dating the Same guy. The dummy knew I was in these groups guess he never thought he would get caught. He hooked up with the one girl who thought he wanted a relationship.
Here’s the funny thing since finding out the universe has been sending me men like crazy.
If this is the only reason for the bridesmaid’s unease, she needs proof before telling the bride. Especially since this info would be second hand. If this is just another in a string of concerning events, I’d still suggest proof, but good to have a general conversation with the bride.
The person that told her should have provided concrete proof to avoid these steps, I would go to the one with the info & get the name of the app, search with his description as the other comments of stated. He could argue that he is not active on it and forgot to delete it. If there is a "last active" timestamp on his profile that displays when he last logged in and it was during the course of their relationship, I would bring that to the bride and be prepared for a brief meltdown, but as other comments have said be prepared for her to marry him anyways.
I would say something. If it’s true, he’ll come clean quickly. I found out my ex was on apps, and confronted him. Initially he denied, and when I suggested that it was unlikely that a catfish would use his name, photos, and phone number, the entire truth came out. You can approach the conversation with her by saying “someone mentioned that they saw Michael on an app. Maybe they were wrong, but maybe it is something. I thought you should know. I’m here for you no matter what.” She can choose what to do with the information.
Casually ask! It could be a misunderstanding so I feel it should be treated like one. I feel being honest and open is very important as a friend . If this man loves her and is not on a dating app he will reassure her that it was a misunderstanding. If he becomes very defensive and upset then that usually means something. Better to nip it in the bud before the big day! I would want someone to tell me so I can ask my fiancé. Hope this helps , such a terrible situation, I really hope he’s not on the dating app! <3 Maddie
I agree that jumping to your bride and bombing her with something that could be completely false would be probably the most destructive thing a person could do.
Similar to Cat's comment, I would try;
1 - Get into the app if you can, search for people that would match his description. If he is cheating, he would not have his name or easily identifying details there about him, so it will require sleuthing.
2 - Perhaps also enlist the help of the friend who told you about this? She is reporting this, so I believe that she has some responsibility in the matter of determining the truth. She burdened you with this, it is reasonable that she carry that burden as much as you do.
The hard truth here is that there may be nothing that you can do in the end. Your efforts of sleuthing may prove futile, and you either will have to hope that it is a baseless claim, or you may have to live with knowledge that you don't have the authority to divulge because you don't have proof.
It is a sickening thought for sure, but you may have to prepare yourself to keep your silence because there is no reliable way to handle an unproven accusation.
I hope that your sleuthing is successful, you find no evidence of infidelity, and your bride and groom have a happy life together.
I would create a fake profile on the dating app and see if he is on there. Join the are we dating the same guy and post his pic anonymously. Then you have your proof.
Be prepared for her to still marry him. If he’s a good manipulator he can explain it away. Him and her work it out.
My bf and I are currently working it out.
My bf was on dating apps. The only reason he got caught was a girl posted him in the group Are We Dating the Same guy. The dummy knew I was in these groups guess he never thought he would get caught. He hooked up with the one girl who thought he wanted a relationship.
Here’s the funny thing since finding out the universe has been sending me men like crazy.
If this is the only reason for the bridesmaid’s unease, she needs proof before telling the bride. Especially since this info would be second hand. If this is just another in a string of concerning events, I’d still suggest proof, but good to have a general conversation with the bride.
The person that told her should have provided concrete proof to avoid these steps, I would go to the one with the info & get the name of the app, search with his description as the other comments of stated. He could argue that he is not active on it and forgot to delete it. If there is a "last active" timestamp on his profile that displays when he last logged in and it was during the course of their relationship, I would bring that to the bride and be prepared for a brief meltdown, but as other comments have said be prepared for her to marry him anyways.
I would say something. If it’s true, he’ll come clean quickly. I found out my ex was on apps, and confronted him. Initially he denied, and when I suggested that it was unlikely that a catfish would use his name, photos, and phone number, the entire truth came out. You can approach the conversation with her by saying “someone mentioned that they saw Michael on an app. Maybe they were wrong, but maybe it is something. I thought you should know. I’m here for you no matter what.” She can choose what to do with the information.
Casually ask! It could be a misunderstanding so I feel it should be treated like one. I feel being honest and open is very important as a friend . If this man loves her and is not on a dating app he will reassure her that it was a misunderstanding. If he becomes very defensive and upset then that usually means something. Better to nip it in the bud before the big day! I would want someone to tell me so I can ask my fiancé. Hope this helps , such a terrible situation, I really hope he’s not on the dating app! <3 Maddie
I agree that jumping to your bride and bombing her with something that could be completely false would be probably the most destructive thing a person could do.
Similar to Cat's comment, I would try;
1 - Get into the app if you can, search for people that would match his description. If he is cheating, he would not have his name or easily identifying details there about him, so it will require sleuthing.
2 - Perhaps also enlist the help of the friend who told you about this? She is reporting this, so I believe that she has some responsibility in the matter of determining the truth. She burdened you with this, it is reasonable that she carry that burden as much as you do.
The hard truth here is that there may be nothing that you can do in the end. Your efforts of sleuthing may prove futile, and you either will have to hope that it is a baseless claim, or you may have to live with knowledge that you don't have the authority to divulge because you don't have proof.
It is a sickening thought for sure, but you may have to prepare yourself to keep your silence because there is no reliable way to handle an unproven accusation.
I hope that your sleuthing is successful, you find no evidence of infidelity, and your bride and groom have a happy life together.