😲 Should I back out of my wedding?

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This week: A caller is wondering if she should back out of her wedding because she knows she is marrying the wrong guy.

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Dear 1-800-Bridesmaid,

Hi, I'm Amy from Boston. I'm writing because I'm literally two months away from my dream wedding – we've spent $45,000, sent all the invitations, and my parents have booked flights for relatives from overseas. Here's the problem: last week I found texts on my fiancé's phone revealing he's been having an emotional affair with his ex for the past year.

When confronted, he admitted he's 'confused' and 'not 100% certain' about us, but still wants to go through with the wedding because 'everyone expects it' and he thinks he'll 'figure out his feelings eventually.'

My friends say I'm crazy to even consider still marrying him, but my religious family believes divorce is a sin and keeps telling me 'all marriages have rough patches.' I'm terrified of the humiliation of canceling the wedding, but equally terrified of ending up in a painful divorce in a few years.

If I do go through with this wedding, what should I be doing now to protect myself financially and emotionally? I doubt he’ll sign a prenup. What would a divorce actually look like if I'm already sensing these red flags? And how do I deal with the shame and stigma of becoming a divorcée when everyone warned me he wasn't the one?

I'm literally staring at my wedding dress as we speak. Please help!

Let’s help Amy.

Want to see what an expert had to say? Kara Francis is a former divorce attorney, divorce survivor, and seasoned relationship, marriage and divorce coach based in New York City. She’s on this week’s episode of 1-800-Bridesmaid sharing her advice on what Amy should do.

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