😲 Should I marry a cheater?

1-800-Bridesmaid

📞 Hello? Hi. It’s me, Jen Glantz. Welcome to the 1-800-Bridesmaid, by Bridesmaid for Hire. A place where real stories are shared and your best advice is given.

This week: A caller just found out her husband cheated on his ex. Should she still marry him?

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Dear 1-800-Bridesmaid,

Hi Jen, I'm Sarah from Denver. I'm getting married to Jake, who's everything I thought I wanted—loyal, ambitious, and treats me like a queen. But I just found out the worst thing EVER.

Jake told me his last relationship ended because they weren’t compatible. I believed him. But a few days ago, he slipped that it actually ended because he cheated with his old coworker. Like are you kidding me?

My one unbreakable rule: once a cheater, always a cheater. I've seen it happen to my sister and a few of my friends. I always swore I'd never be the woman who thought she could change someone.

Jake keeps saying he's different now, that he learned from his mistake and would never hurt me. He seems genuinely remorseful and claims he only lied because he was afraid of losing me. But isn't that what they all say?

The wedding is in eight months. My family adores Jake, and honestly, he has been nothing but faithful and attentive to me. But I keep wondering—if he could lie so easily about why his last relationship ended, what else might he be hiding?

I love Jake, but I'm terrified. Am I naive to think he's changed? Or am I letting my fear ruin something real? The worst part is not knowing if I can ever fully trust him again.

-Sarah

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