I'd say yes to coffee, then during that time, be honest with him about how the bride is acting, and go from there. You might want to consider having a secret relationship because... I honestly don't feel like a true friend would act anything but excited for you to also possibly find your true love! I mean, she should feel giddy that her engagement party made that happen! (IF it gets to that point even, lol.) Still, it seems like she's worried about how much you can be there for her, which is a little reasonable, but prove her wrong. Remind her of busy/ crazy times in life where you shined in spite of the circumstances. And remind her that happy people look more photogenic than unhappy ones ;) Love is hard to find, so if that's what it feels like it has the potential to be, I'd go for it...on the down low! ❤️
It’s your life and you are both adults. If the connection is that strong, I would meet him and let him know what the bride said as well as the importance of your friendship with her. If he understands you can both wait or start seeing each other without telling anyone else. It’s your life, it’s your business. She has no right to tell you what to do, unless she’s protecting you somehow.
It should not take someone FOUR YEARS to see the writing on the wall and get enough courage to leave him. He has no reason to want to move forward in this relationship as he is getting all his needs met at the expense of stringing you along. That is not indicative of someone who loves you but instead is behavior of a selfish person only intent on getting what he wants. LEAVE NOW while you still have a life ahead.
I'd say yes to coffee, then during that time, be honest with him about how the bride is acting, and go from there. You might want to consider having a secret relationship because... I honestly don't feel like a true friend would act anything but excited for you to also possibly find your true love! I mean, she should feel giddy that her engagement party made that happen! (IF it gets to that point even, lol.) Still, it seems like she's worried about how much you can be there for her, which is a little reasonable, but prove her wrong. Remind her of busy/ crazy times in life where you shined in spite of the circumstances. And remind her that happy people look more photogenic than unhappy ones ;) Love is hard to find, so if that's what it feels like it has the potential to be, I'd go for it...on the down low! ❤️
It’s your life and you are both adults. If the connection is that strong, I would meet him and let him know what the bride said as well as the importance of your friendship with her. If he understands you can both wait or start seeing each other without telling anyone else. It’s your life, it’s your business. She has no right to tell you what to do, unless she’s protecting you somehow.
It should not take someone FOUR YEARS to see the writing on the wall and get enough courage to leave him. He has no reason to want to move forward in this relationship as he is getting all his needs met at the expense of stringing you along. That is not indicative of someone who loves you but instead is behavior of a selfish person only intent on getting what he wants. LEAVE NOW while you still have a life ahead.